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A Communication Pledge

I say what I mean.
I choose to let others accept me or reject me based on who I am.
The responsibility to share my heart and mind and soul lies with me. I will express myself to the limit of my abilities.

What I say may not be common.

I know it is easier to understand an expected word. I know misunderstanding is common, and happens to all of us even when we do our best to listen. We may fail to catch a ball thrown to us, even if we agree to play. Especially if we weren’t expecting it to be heavy.

I know some people will choose to disunderstand. We may swat the ball away, or let it drop because it didn’t land directly in our pocket.

I know some people will choose prejudice. If a fragment of something I say arouses alarm, people may run away without the whole. It is easier to jump to conclusions than to bear a complex or provocative idea to its completion. We may choose to shut ideas out, rather than allow another perspective to complicate our lives.

If others want to stereotype me, that’s okay. If you try to react to other humans as individuals, there are over 7 billion reactions possible. A handful of stereotypes is much easier to choose from. We can even choose which types of people to like before we meet them.

If someone chooses to open up and understand me, seeing who I am as an individual without jumping to conclusions or filing me away as a type of person, they may see me naked as a human being. It may not be pretty.

If others choose judgement in their lives, they may judge me. Is what I believe right or wrong? Good or bad?
Once we listen, we may choose to dissect ideas and people with the blades of our morality.

We may open ourselves up, or close ourselves off in protection and make a small safe world. Openness is vulnerable, and it invites messy things like love. Judgement has a satisfying crunch to it, and nothing compares to the bitter taste of contempt. It has the cleanest finish.

I will not distort my words to make them safe for others, conceal them to make them safe for me, or disguise them to make them attractive to anyone.

I choose to open up, and offer words from my heart. Others will find them useful or attractive.

Or something else will happen. I welcome it all.

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